When did relationships stop being exclusive by default???

Sometimes I don’t get this country. Apparently somewhere in the last few years, relationships are not exclusive by default. You actually have to ask or set the terms in advance.
So what does that mean?

You are a young girl, growing up in a slightly messed up society where material has become more important than anything else. Magical things like christmas have been ruined by how big and expensive the gifts are. Every other teenage girl that you see on tv or in magazines looks like they just stepped out of a machine that shrinks their clothes 4 sizes so that boobs and ass are practically all you see, draped with some layers of make up and not to forget that fabulous feature ringtone of trying to sound the most stupid possible. OMG! You betcha, I said it girl!

So you, as the young girl, trying to find your place in the world, trying to find ‘love’, you think that is what you need to do to attract boys, you need to reduce your clothes, pile on the make up and definitely reduce your brain. Cause that’s the perfect girl, practically naked, painted and fake and utterly stupid. Ow yes, and throw in some pouty lips and acting like a three year old, that seems to be the way forward…

You are a teenage boy, all you see, is buffed up guys, being the man, trying to concur as many girls as they can while ‘learning’ to drink. After all, that is what it is to be a man isn’t it? You are ‘hard enough’ if you can pick up a few pints of alcohol so you can act like a buffoon while jumping from one girl to another.

I am very lucky, I come from a time where we still knew what love meant, back then, we could go out in jeans and a t-shirt, we could just have a chat with a boy without shoving our tongues in each other mouth (or worse). Back then, we got to know each other and by default, we were exclusive from the moment you started dating. Back then, if you were dating 2 girls at once, you were considered to be an a**hole, and rightly so. If you can’t even have the dignity to get to know one person at a time, what hope is there for you to ever discover real love, since you can’t even manage respect ?

Love is about caring, support, magic, genuine growing together, mutual respect, discovering each other. That thrill of that first kiss, holding hands, making love… all of that, is being robbed from the teenagers now. Those sensations are gone, all they have been replaced with are empty, short term indulgences. (go book your tickets to Magaluf now!)

Don’t let it die, don’t be influenced by those airheads on tv and don’t be drawn in by bitter losers, who tell you that love doesn’t exist. They might look like they have everything, but in truth, they will never discover the ultimate treasure and richness in this life, and that is true love. Once you discover that, you know that nothing else compares.

good luck!

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Deciding between careers

It’s Hermann Rorschach’s 129th birthday today and since Google enticed me to want to learn a little bit more about this inventive man, I read his bio on Wikipedia.

Turns out that, just like so many of us, he didn’t know what to choose as a career, art or science. Something a lot of us are faced with. It’s funny, you see people go to work everyday, not realising what internal struggles and sacrifices went on before they decided to go for that one job.

There is something wrong with how this is set up though, think about it… people have gifts and talents, many of those unique and powerful. Instead of harnessing that power on the workfloor, we try to make every one fit in a little restricted box, filtering the potential so it is only able to shine in one direction. And there… we lose a lot, because it is just that combination, of that individual that can be a breakthrough and a success for the company. Mr. Rorschach being a perfect example of this, he saw a way to combine his talents and that is what really put him on the map.

Luckily, there are those managers amongst us that try to poke little hole’s in the restricted box, allowing individuals to shine in the most unlikely places. Shine on!

Health is a journey from the middle of (k)nowhere

Anyone who has dealth with severe disease and has overcome it, knows that health is a journey.
A journey where you get dropped in the middle of knowhere (not a spelling mistake 😉 with misleading roadsigns.

When you become ill, it usually happens gradually, you start feeling more tired, you have more ups and down, you get depressed.
And all of a sudden, before you even realize it, your life has become this dark place filled with hospitals and white coats.
No answers, just test and more tests. If one thing doesn’t work, we will try another.
But all that time, you feel yourself wondering, why? Why has this happened to me? Why am I now such a burden on my family? Why me?
What is wrong with me?
And that question never seems to get answered.

Sometimes there are answers for the symptoms, but not why they arose in the first place.
So you wait, you wait for someone to give you anwsers.

And finally you get the answers, but it might not be what you expected. You get an answer telling you there is nothing more they can do, you will never get better.
Or you get an answer that you might hope to be 60% of what you ever were.
The masters of your universe have spoken and told you that you should just face it, nothing more to do.
The little pills will keep you going just enough so you can survive in your dark place and learn to cope with it.

So then you start thinking, why? Why does it have to be like this? Who gives them the right to tell me that?
And you are faced with a choice, accept that the dark room will be the place where you spend your eternity, or, you take a journey, a journey into the unknown, towards the light that you know is there, but just can’t see.

❤ Feel Good

the blessing of an iffy health

I am blessed with health that needs a lot of work. Most people can do a lot to their body and never even notice it, actually that is not true, all bodies suffer, but some choose to wait a long time to actually show it. Not mine, it is a great measuring tool to see effects of foods, chemicals, stress,… so it it is really a blessing because it allows me to experiment, and through those experiments, cure myself and share that knowledge with others.
Since yesterday, I have had a trapped nerve, very painful and has as a side effect that it prevents me from sleeping. But, luckily, during my years of discovering great remedies, I have discovered a chinese oil, I got it from one of the Chinese acupunture centers in the UK, and they told me that in China, every one used to have this oil, it was known as a miracle cure. Unfortunately, this is now one of the things that the natural remedy witchhunt has now taken away, so it is not available anymore for sale. I still have about half a bottle, and I have been using only a few drops and the difference is already remarkable. There are so many great cures out there for all illnesses, it just takes time to find them.
It really has become like a treasure hunt to try and find them.
I will keep looking.

❤ Feel Good

Share a thought

It is a wonder what we go through every day, not only in our own lives, but think about all the hidden stories your fellow human beings go through. I am sitting here, ready for work, just having breakfast and I know that at this very moment, a friend of mine, her fiancee is in the hospital, so they are surrounded by a powerful whirlwind of emotions and unknowns.

On this planet, there are so many lives, some are experiences great suffering and some are experiences great joy at this moment. Like a baby being born, falling in love, … all these lives, living together, often not having a clue of what the other is going through, good or bad.

So I decided to take a moment and stand still. And just share a thought with every one who needs it.

❤ Feel Good

Take your life back into your hands – a cure for cancer?

“There are no coincidences”

Jos is scientist, a true scientist, it’s in his veins and he uses science and research to help improve the lives of hundreds of people. He changed my life, from a depressed Chronic Fatigue sufferer with very limited mobility, into a smiling, healthy, living and curious human being.

His journey started when he was 18  years old, 2 ‘coincidences’ happened… his dad told him about an aunt, a nun, she had to have a severe operation in 1952, a long had to be taken away. But she couldn’t be anaesthetised, because she would not survive it as she a serious asthma condition. They had to find a different solution, in the form of a hypnotist that had to come over from America to put her under, with hypnosis. and it worked, not only that, but she recovered much faster than normal patients. So this started the curiosity.

another quite funny story happened when he was 18 years old, while in the army, he suffered from hemorrhoids. He visited his doctor and he was ready to give him an injection in his anus. With the scalpel in his hand, he told Jos that he would cut it out and it would take some time to heal. But being young and just having bought a motorbike, Jos didn’t really fancy that. So with his trousers around his ankles, he ran out of the doctors office and swore never to come back.

He resorted into visiting what other people called a ‘fake’ in those days (or even now) and he gave him a natural tincture and after about a month they were gone.

Jos started by studying 3 years of natural healing, hypnotherapist and so on. But for bread and butter, he was working at his parents electricity shop, he was born and raised in the electricity business. He studied robotics, electronics anything to do with circuits, machines and electricity.

So he fought a lot within, because he wasn’t sure he made the right choices in life. The only thing he knew is that he wanted to help people, expand their health and mind. But he also had to make a living, so he started with a fitness center, but not for body builders, but for people who want to shape their mind and body, the right way. But he wanted more. In those days, there were no real health centers around, it was all very new and not such a hype as it is now. So he kept studying and learning in America, Germany, got in touch with orthomolecular medicine, quantum field, germanic medicine, different theories, different people,… he came to the conclusion that a lot of the diseases were self- inflicted, people needed to be educated and learn how the body and the mind works.

“Don’t give up your driver’s seat – get off auto-pilot”

People are a lot on auto pilot, they don’t think anymore about what they do to their immune system by putting unhealthy foods on their plate, living unnatural rhythms, creating unhealthy conflicts in their relationships,… It is like a car, if you put the wrong fuel in a car, it will stop working or give you a very bumpy ride.

He met very inspiring and knowledgeable people, healers and doctors, with different success stories that people would call miracles, but miracles are only miracles because we don’t have the knowledge to explain them. With the experience and incredible knowledge that Jos has gathered over the years, he has been able to create his own ‘miracles’, helping hundreds of people. Not only with therapy, but also arming them with knowledge to live a healthy life.

His success stories with cancer patients are well-known and he keeps helping more and more.

In this video, you hear his story, his findings on what causes all of these modern diseases and how we can change this. He is one of the most honest people I have met with a true dedication to helping people.

If you want to get back into your driver’s seat, get in touch with Jos, you can contact him on Jos.Loete@telenet.be.  He is a very busy man, with a high demand schedule. So be patient, but he will get back to you.

❤ Feel Good

Communication – the basics

Communication is based on understanding.

It’s 2-ways and it is used as a tool to make sure you are understood AND to make sure that you understand the person you are communicating with.

I love communication, because to me, it’s an art. It’s flexible, you can experiment with it, you can use it creatively and most of all, you can analyse it! and THAT is the real key to successful communication. Your capability of analysing and using that analysis to optimise your communication.

Why do you need to be a good communicator? Well, unless you want to spend eternity in a dark cave with no creatures around you, just waiting to die, you will need to interact with people. Why? To get help, to achieve dreams, to become one with a special person, in essence, to be happy. Think about it, from ordering a bowl of rice to discussing your deepest fears, to closing important business deals, you need communication.

And… it’s one of those things isn’t it, it’s super hard and at the same time, it is really easy.

How does that work?

Well communicating is knowing how to express yourself clearly enough so that the other person actually understands you, and vice versa, understanding a person expressing her/himself to you.

But, you are dealing with people and, if you havent noticed yet, every individual is different. So you need to learn to adapt your communication to individuals and there lies the trick.

That is why I said that analysing is the real basis of communication, because only through analysis can you truly learn to communicate.

Some of us are naturals, you could consider us the shamans of communication, there is a deep intuition and understanding inside of us, so it seems effortless. But, every one can learn, if they are willing to learn. You have to become a scientist. Analyse and experiment and soon you will be able to see the results, you will see yourself grow. Wether you want to grow in the field of business, personal relationships, technical communication,… anything can be achieved by these 2 secret ingredients: analysis and experimenting.

where do you start?

With a little role-playing game. First step is to become a listener, an observer. You look at interactions and try to define all the elements. Look at a family discussion. Ever had 2 family members bicker about television, politics, the news or religion? These little discussions can teach you a lot. So for the first step… just do that, take week of just observation.

Good luck

❤ Feel Good

“The world isn’t Black or White. Be the color you want to be”

“The world isn’t Black or White. Be the color you want to be”

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In my previous post, I promised that I would share with you my voyage. I won’t be sharing it in a linear way, I will give my inspiration the freedom to share what is in my heart today.

I was working on Feel Good Space’s facebook and as part of that, looking for strong, inspirational video’s. I came across this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4

An inspirational video about how it is ok to be introvert, even though today’s world isn’t always as embracing towards the more quiet and timid. The ones that live in their own world. It’s ok, more than ok, it holds treasures of it’s own. Deep gems.

I consider myself to be an extrovert/introvert. Growing up, at school, I was always an introvert, and that made hard to make friends, so I ended up a lot of time on my own. quiet, polite, a great observer. Now, when I went to school, that was what they liked to see. Quiet, polite children who just got on with it and studied. In today’s world however, this is completely different. My little niece is a lot like me, she is very quiet, will always observe from a distance. This seems to worry teachers and parents. When it shouldn’t. Because that world of their own, creates so much power and knowledge. The power of observation and solitude leeds to diplomacy, vision, open mindedness and it’s where true passion comes from! It is how you discover who YOU really are!!! So please, let your children discover who they really are.

Don’t get me wrong, it is nice to have friends. Especially as a teenager, I recall those nights where I felt so utterly alone, no where to go, no one to call, and yes, I was lonely. But would I do it differently? no, it made me into who I am. and you know, I really do like me.

That introverted little girl was the source to why I am such a great interviewer, the source of my integrity and honesty. And because it is so deeply rooted, people feel that. They pick on it. And when you find your extroverted side (or force yourself to find it, because you are so passionate that you know that is the only way to reach your goals) – then you will shine and strike that balance between in and extrovert.

❤ Feel Good

“Life is like photography. You need the negatives to develop.”

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“Life is like photography. You need the negatives to develop.”

As a kid, I was always ill, throat infections, ear infections, colds, flu,… and for some reason I was always tired. Every Sunday, my mum and dad used to take us for bicycle rides, through the forest or somewhere in nature; to make sure we got plenty of exercise and fresh air. It would have been great, except that I always felt dead tired. I was always asking my dad: “Dad… can you carry me? I’m really tired”

Being a teenager wasn’t that much fun either. Same thing, ill a lot and always tired. And after years of antibiotics, tonsils taken out and various other side effects like IBS and no one ever having any answer to why I was so tired, it got to a point of no return.

At least that was what the experts had to say. I had reached a point where I was about as fit as a 99 year old. Barely able to walk up the stairs, not able to work anymore, depressed and useless… that was the emotion I felt most, utterly useless and a waste of space. It sure was a dark place.

After plenty of tests at the hospital, they finally put a name on it: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. The professor who diagnosed me was one of the leading researchers in this field. and I remember it clearly as if it was yesterday… My dad and I were walking out of his office and I just had to ask this question. I said: “Please be honest with me. Will I ever get better?” –  His reply was this: “No… *big pause* … at most you can expect to regain 60 percent of what you were able to do before.”

Instantly, a fire just lit up inside of me. I was angry! I wasnt going to let this be the end of it! I was determined to beat this and this was the start of a long voyage, that took me to foreign places and brought me fascinating, magical and scientific encounters with people out there with a genuine gift and the desire to truly heal, people from all walks of life and very different beliefs. But they all had something to give to me: a little piece of the puzzle.

It was up to me to put all those puzzle pieces together, learn why I got ill in the first place and learn how I can get better. My individual path to health. And this journey, I will share more and more through Feel Good Space. Because that is what the puzzle pieces created.

My very own Feel Good Space. With health, love, inspiration and energy.

If you suffer from chronic fatigue and you want to have a talk, don’t hesitate to get in touch with me. Just remember, I can only tell you what I experienced, it will be up to you to find how this can help you.

❤ Feel Good

You are the creator of your day!

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“you are the creator of your day!”

It took me a while to realize what that meant and to an extent I am still learning what that really means. In my mind, I have always been a strong believer in taking responsibility, being independent and not letting anything or anyone else influence my life.

When it came to the outside world, I think i have managed pretty well. All the knocks of life did some damage at the time, but they shaped me into a better, and improved me.

But, only recently I am starting to discover to what extent I am responsible for my own life. I actually hold the power to CHOOSE what I want to do, be, experience in this world. There is really nothing that I ‘have’ to do, they are all choices.

I can choose to go to work every day, I can choose to make that into a duty, something I feel like I have to do, and I can choose to lie to myself a little every day. Or, I can choose to truly believe what so many successful people have discovered and learn what I love. and choose to do what I love. And make that the start of another exciting voyage to embark on.

What I have always done, naturally, without effort and without realizing it, is inspiring people. And finally I love myself enough to truly see that. The hundreds of message on youtube or facebook, never really made that click, but now I see that I do have the possibility to inspire others. and the great thing is, I can do it by just being me. I don’t have to be an expert, I don’t have to put myself on a pedestal, I can just be me.

That is what I love about me, I can keep that humility but still be strong, be true to myself, have faith in myself and create a powerful force, just being true to the love in my heart.

Feel Good Space is all of that, helping you find your space, discover who you really are and then learn to discover the beauty in you, your power that will lead to you creating a space for yourself that you are truly happy in.

Feel good Space will show you my inspiration, my influences, my discoveries and you can observe them and make them into your own. and that is the key, make them into your own!

What is empowering for me, might not always be empowering for you, but following my discoveries and how I made those realizations, THAT will be what can help you to make your own realizations.

I am creating my life’s masterpiece, with my brush, my paint, my strokes. You are creating your masterpiece, make sure you do it on your canvas, with your brush and your unique blend of colors!

Enjoy!