It’s Hermann Rorschach’s 129th birthday today and since Google enticed me to want to learn a little bit more about this inventive man, I read his bio on Wikipedia.
Turns out that, just like so many of us, he didn’t know what to choose as a career, art or science. Something a lot of us are faced with. It’s funny, you see people go to work everyday, not realising what internal struggles and sacrifices went on before they decided to go for that one job.
There is something wrong with how this is set up though, think about it… people have gifts and talents, many of those unique and powerful. Instead of harnessing that power on the workfloor, we try to make every one fit in a little restricted box, filtering the potential so it is only able to shine in one direction. And there… we lose a lot, because it is just that combination, of that individual that can be a breakthrough and a success for the company. Mr. Rorschach being a perfect example of this, he saw a way to combine his talents and that is what really put him on the map.
Luckily, there are those managers amongst us that try to poke little hole’s in the restricted box, allowing individuals to shine in the most unlikely places. Shine on!
Communication is based on understanding.
It’s 2-ways and it is used as a tool to make sure you are understood AND to make sure that you understand the person you are communicating with.
I love communication, because to me, it’s an art. It’s flexible, you can experiment with it, you can use it creatively and most of all, you can analyse it! and THAT is the real key to successful communication. Your capability of analysing and using that analysis to optimise your communication.
Why do you need to be a good communicator? Well, unless you want to spend eternity in a dark cave with no creatures around you, just waiting to die, you will need to interact with people. Why? To get help, to achieve dreams, to become one with a special person, in essence, to be happy. Think about it, from ordering a bowl of rice to discussing your deepest fears, to closing important business deals, you need communication.
And… it’s one of those things isn’t it, it’s super hard and at the same time, it is really easy.
How does that work?
Well communicating is knowing how to express yourself clearly enough so that the other person actually understands you, and vice versa, understanding a person expressing her/himself to you.
But, you are dealing with people and, if you havent noticed yet, every individual is different. So you need to learn to adapt your communication to individuals and there lies the trick.
That is why I said that analysing is the real basis of communication, because only through analysis can you truly learn to communicate.
Some of us are naturals, you could consider us the shamans of communication, there is a deep intuition and understanding inside of us, so it seems effortless. But, every one can learn, if they are willing to learn. You have to become a scientist. Analyse and experiment and soon you will be able to see the results, you will see yourself grow. Wether you want to grow in the field of business, personal relationships, technical communication,… anything can be achieved by these 2 secret ingredients: analysis and experimenting.
where do you start?
With a little role-playing game. First step is to become a listener, an observer. You look at interactions and try to define all the elements. Look at a family discussion. Ever had 2 family members bicker about television, politics, the news or religion? These little discussions can teach you a lot. So for the first step… just do that, take week of just observation.
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